(Matthew 1:18-25)

December 24, 2023

Today is Christmas Eve and as a church we get the opportunity to serve our community in one of my favorite outreach ministries. 

Today we will prepare around 375 meals for the people of Macomb and the surrounding areas.

We will serve these meals to people.

We will deliver these meals to people.

And some of us will share in these meals with people.

This is an opportunity for us to meet the physical needs of people so we earn the right to meet their spiritual need, to pray with them, to spend time with them, to love them. 

As we deliver our meals, we are not in a hurry, we slow down and ask if there are things they would like for us to pray with them about, or if there is anything they need. 

For many of the folks we serve today, we may be the only human contact they will have over the next couple of days. 

So, we want to make sure we are loving others well.

How are you going to show love to others, maybe you could help us by serving to Christmas eve dinner to others tonight.

So, this raises the question: How do I love others well, how can I show others I love them, not just during the Christmas season, but all year, every year? 

I believe one of the ways is to truly See Your Neighbors

I will love my neighbors, whoever they are, by truly seeing them. 

I will look past the obvious, the outer shell, and I will look into their eyes, their hearts, and their circumstances. 

If I am blinded by my own bitterness or anger, I will beg God to give me His eyes to see His beloved creation as He does.

Next, I’ll Pray.

I’ll love my neighbors by praying for them—even if it’s through gritted teeth at first. 

I’ll beg God to give me a sincere heart, and I will petition and pray until I am sincere. 

I will pray for my neighbors’ circumstances, salvation, and walk with the Lord. 

I’ll pray for the everyday and the momentous. 

I will pray for my neighbors, especially the ones I least want to pray for.

Finally, I’ll Refuse To Be Judgmental

God calls us to spur others on to become more Christ-like, but, again, our heart issues often get in the way. 

We take it to extremes—we often become self-righteous and judgmental or we refuse to point out areas in others’ lives where God wants to bring freedom and truth.

I declare that I will love my neighbor by refusing to house a judgmental spirit. 

I refuse to focus on the sin in my neighbor’s life as opposed to the sin in my own. 

I will, however, be bold enough to challenge my neighbor in love and to pray for areas of bondage, pain, injustice, and sin in their life. 

I will love my neighbor by understanding that love doesn’t always feel warm and fuzzy, but often challenges and calls out something greater so that they can experience the fullness of Christ.

Today as we celebrate together the fourth Sunday of Advent we light the candle of love. 

When Jesus came into the world as a baby, He was the human embodiment of the gift of God’s love.

When He came as Immanuel, God with Us, He came as God incarnate—He came as love incarnate.


Today we are going to look at four aspects of love. 

We will look at: 

  • Joseph’s love for Mary 
  • Mary’s love for Jesus
  • God’s love for sinners and 
  • Our love for one another. 

There would be no Christmas without love, and all four of these are important parts of the Christmas story

Let’s look at it. 

Matthew 1:18-25

This is how the birth of Jesus the Messiah came about: His mother Mary was pledged to be married to Joseph, but before they came together, she was found to be pregnant through the Holy Spirit. 19 Because Joseph her husband was faithful to the law, and yet did not want to expose her to public disgrace, he had in mind to divorce her quietly.

20 But after he had considered this, an angel of the Lord appeared to him in a dream and said, “Joseph son of David, do not be afraid to take Mary home as your wife, because what is conceived in her is from the Holy Spirit. 21 She will give birth to a son, and you are to give him the name Jesus, because he will save his people from their sins.”

22 All this took place to fulfill what the Lord had said through the prophet: 23 “The virgin will conceive and give birth to a son, and they will call him Immanuel” (which means “God with us”).

24 When Joseph woke up, he did what the angel of the Lord had commanded him and took Mary home as his wife. 25 But he did not consummate their marriage until she gave birth to a son. And he gave him the name Jesus.


This is an incredibly important part of the Christmas story. 

You might say, “Well of course he loved Mary. They were engaged!” 

And yes, they were engaged to be married, but that didn’t necessarily mean that Joseph loved her. 

In that day and time people often got married for reasons other than love. 

Marriages were typically arranged by the spouses’ parents. 

Many times marriage was viewed more as a social or economic relationship rather than a romantically based relationship.

So how do we know Joseph loved Mary? 

We know because of his response when Mary was found to be pregnant during the engagement, before they were married, before they had come together as husband and wife. 

As far as Joseph knew, Mary had been unfaithful to him and slept with another man. 

Joseph must have felt completely betrayed by this and would have every right to be angry and upset with her.

Now Joseph had several options here. 

He could go ahead and marry her anyways, knowing that the child wasn’t his own. 

However, that would have gone against his convictions as a man committed to God and God’s ways. 

No matter how much he loved Mary, he needed to put his relationship with God first.

He could have dragged her before the tribunal and had her tried for adultery. 

This would have been a vindictive move. 

At the very least Mary would be publicly disgraced, or even worse, she could be sentenced to death by stoning.

But what did Joseph do instead? 

We read in Matthew 1:18-19: His mother Mary was pledged to be married to Joseph, but before they came together, she was found to be with child through the Holy Spirit. Because Joseph her husband was a righteous man and did not want to expose her to public disgrace, he had in mind to divorce her quietly.” 

Joseph chose a third option.

Instead of marrying her in defiance of God’s commands, instead of bringing her before the judges in an act of revenge, he thought about what was best for Mary in this situation. 

And so he decided rather than expose her to public disgrace, he would divorce her quietly. 

Sure people would still know and talk about her. 

That was unavoidable. 

But at least she wouldn’t go through the public humiliation of a trial.

Joseph had several options open to him, and he chose the way of love. 

He chose the way that would bring the least amount of shame and attention to Mary. 

Love always protects, and Joseph chose to protect Mary, even when he thought she had been unfaithful to him. 

Joseph’s love for Mary is our first example of love at Christmas.


Luke 2:6-7, While they were there, the time came for the baby to be born, 7 and she gave birth to her firstborn, a son. She wrapped him in cloths and placed him in a manger, because there was no guest room available for them.

This, of course, is the center of the Christmas story, the actual birth of Christ that first Christmas Eve. 

Mary gives birth to her firstborn, a son. 

She tenderly wraps him in swaddling cloths and lays him in the manger.

There is a usually a natural love between every mother and the child she bears. 

Now, in a fallen world this is not always true, we know that, but Mary loved Jesus and cared for Him.

The child has been inside her for months. 

She has given life to this child. 

For nine months she has nourished the child with her own body. 

She has felt every move, every kick, every turn. 

She has dreamed and imagined what this child would look like. 

She has gone through the long months of pregnancy, the hard sacrifice of labor, the excruciating pain of childbirth, and now she holds her newborn child in her arms. 

How could she not love this beautiful new human being who has come from her own body?

Mary loved Jesus. 

Mary’s love for Jesus is also seen in other ways in Scripture. 

For example, after the shepherds visited Joseph and Mary and then went into the town spreading the word about Jesus, we read in Luke 2:19, But Mary treasured up all these things and pondered them in her heart. 

The word translated “treasured” is a word that means “to preserve” or “to keep in mind” or even “to keep thinking about something so that you won’t forget it.” 

The word translated “pondered” is a word that means “to bring together” or “to think deeply or reflect on something.” 

Together these words tell us that Mary didn’t want to lose a single memory of all that happened that night. 

She kept running through the events over and over again in her mind so she wouldn’t forget. 

She thought deeply about these happenings, bringing all the individual memories together and wondering what it all could mean. 

Mary’s love for Jesus was reflected in her very thoughts about him. 

Her thoughts were captive to Christ, and she made every effort to remember every detail as she sought to understand the meaning of his birth.

Mary loved Jesus

Her love for Jesus is also revealed by the words Simeon spoke over Jesus and Mary in the temple. 

Remember Simeon? 

God had promised Simeon that he would not die before he saw the Messiah. 

God’s Spirit moved Simeon to enter the temple courts just as Joseph and Mary were bringing Jesus into the temple to present him to the Lord. 

Simeon took Jesus into his arms and prophesied over him.

But then Simeon also spoke to Mary. 

We read about this in Luke 2:34-35, Then Simeon blessed them and said to Mary, his mother: “This child is destined to cause the falling and rising of many in Israel, and to be a sign that will be spoken against, 35 so that the thoughts of many hearts will be revealed. And a sword will pierce your own soul too.”

In effect Simeon told Mary that there were difficult days ahead for her son, Jesus. 

Mary didn’t know how difficult at the time, but Simeon gave her forewarning when he told her that a sword would pierce her own soul, too.

True to this word of prophecy, Mary suffered greatly as Jesus grew to be a man. 

Jesus was no ordinary son. 

He belonged first to his heavenly Father – as he reminded Mary in the temple when he was twelve years’ old. (Luke 2:49-50) 

He operated on his own time table, not hers – as he made clear to her at the wedding in Cana. (John 2:4) 

When Jesus’ ministry attracted such great numbers that he and his disciples could not even eat, his family thought he was out of his mind and went to take charge of him. 

And when it came time for Jesus to die, Mary was there at the cross. 

John tells us she was near the cross as she watched her son suffer and die there. 

John 19:25, Near the cross of Jesus stood his mother, his mother’s sister, Mary the wife of Clopas, and Mary Magdalene.

So yes, Simeon’s words were absolutely and brutally true. 

A sword would pierce Mary’s own soul, too. 


Because her son was destined to suffer and die, and she loved her son deeply. 

That’s the second aspect of love that is part of the Christmas story – Mary’s love for Jesus.


And this is really the heart of the Christmas story. 

The Christmas story is all about love. 

Joseph’s love for Mary and Mary’s love for Jesus are both important parts of that story, but they are not the most important. 

The central message of love at Christmas is God’s love for sinners.

This is evident from the angel’s words to Joseph about Mary in Matthew 1:21, “She will give birth to a son, and you are to give him the name Jesus, because he will save his people from their sins.” 

Why was Jesus born into our world? 

It’s all in his name! 

The name Jesus means “Savior” or “salvation,” and Jesus was born into our world to save his people from their sins.

We read in John 3:16-17, “For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but to save the world through him.” 

The greatest gift ever given at Christmas was the gift of God’s own Son. 

God gave his One and Only Son that whoever believes in him would not perish but have eternal life. 

Jesus did not merely come into the world. 

He was sent into the world. 

God the Father sent his Son into the world, not to condemn the world, but to save the world through him.

If you ever doubt that God loves you, just look at his Son, Jesus. 

Look at Jesus the child born into the world as a baby. 

Look at Jesus the man, teaching the people, preaching the good news of the kingdom, and healing every disease and sickness among the people. 

Look at Jesus the Savior, suffering and dying on the cross for your sins to bring you to God. 

Look at Jesus the King, risen from the dead, ascended to heaven, coming back for you to take you to be with him that you also may be where he is forever.

Nothing can ever separate you from God’s love for you in Christ. 

As Paul writes in Romans 8:38-39, “For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.” 

The Christmas story is all about love, but the most important part of the story is God’s love for sinners. 

God so loved the world, he gave us his Son so that we would not perish but have eternal life.

We’ve looked at Joseph’s love for Mary, Mary’s love for Jesus, and God’s love for sinners. 

But there is one more aspect of love at Christmas that we do not want to leave out. 


The Bible makes a clear and unbreakable connection between God’s love for us and our love for each other. 

We read in 1 John 4:10-11: “This is love: not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as an atoning sacrifice for our sins. Dear friends, since God so loved us, we also ought to love one another.”

Notice God’s love comes first. 

God’s love always comes first. 

God’s love in creating the world; God’s love in promising a Savior; God’s love in sending his Son into the world; God’s love in Jesus dying on the cross for your sins. 

“This is love: not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as an atoning sacrifice for our sins.” (1 John 4:10)

God’s love always comes first. 

But then our love should follow. “Dear friends, since God so loved us, we also ought to love one another.” (1 John 4:11) 

Our love for others should follow, not merely as an obligation, but as a natural outflow of God’s love for us. 

If God loved you so much that he sent his Son Jesus to die for you, how can you not love others in return? 

And if God loved others so much that he sent his Son Jesus to die for them, how can you not love them as well?

And so Christmas is not only a reminder of how much God loves you, but also how much you should love other people. 

Is there someone you need to help this Christmas? 

Is there someone you need to reach out to this Christmas? 

Is there someone you need to forgive this Christmas?

God showed his love for us at Christmas by sending his Son into the world as a sacrifice for our sins. 

How will you show your love to others this Christmas?

One of the ways we are showing our love to others this Christmas as a church is serving them a Christmas Eve Dinner tonight, but not just food. 

We will also be spending time praying for whoever God brings in our path. 

We don’t just serve food we also minister to people’s souls, WE LOVE ONE ANOTHER. 


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